10 important things you should “do” and 10 others you should “not do” in order to be contented and successful in life
Where do you think you will be in the next three or five years? Probably, you could be in the most beautiful city having fun with family or friends; or maybe, you could be on an Island you had longed desired to visit since you were a kid. If we take fortune out of the scenario, the plans and actions you take today will go a long way in determining the extent to which you will be contented and successful future.
To a great extent, your success lies in your hands. Regardless of how many definitions people have for contentment and success, contentment and success actually depend a lot on what you define them to be. Your definitions might differ a lot from the definitions of other people.
What make you contented and successful in life is personal to you. Your siblings, partner, parents and friends might have their own definitions of contentment and success, but their definitions will always remain their own; they aren’t meant for you! Whatever makes or will make you feel contented, happy and successful, is what your definition of contentment and success should be.
Being contented and successful isn’t necessarily about having all the riches in the world, or winning every award. Actually, it’s all about personal fulfilment. One person might feel contented and successful travelling around the world, while another person might feel contented and successful pursuing their own passion in a country, city, or even a small village.
Although we might not always be able to give an all-encompassing definition of contentment and success, history has shown that there are certain things that can give and maximize one’s level of contentment and success, and make one more contented, productive, happy, and successful.
Generally, there are some things you must do, and others you must not do—“do not”:
10 important things you should do in order to be contented and successful
(1) Find what you like doing and engage in it
Oprah Winfrey once made a statement that has become a very popular quote: “You know you are on the road to success if you would do your job and not be paid for it”. In order words, if you would be happy doing your job without receiving payment, then you are on the road to success. If you don’t like something, then you would be wasting your time engaging in it.
(2) Always be positive and think big
It might be difficult to always feel big or great, but it will always be great to feel great. The danger most of us will ever face will arise because of our inability to think positively, and think big. Many people fall too short of their expectations because from the very beginning, they aimed too low and were consistently negative along the way. Don’t always put away your dreams because of negativity, or because you want to follow an easier route that leads to nowhere. Have faith and unwavering thoughts that you will succeed!
(3) Balance or harmonize your work together with your life
Success could become as boring as it usually does whenever people concentrate or engage too much in what they like, and to such an extent that it takes over all other interesting things in their lives—they make their work or dreams take over their life instead of harmonizing the two together by providing time for both work and life. Don’t spend countless hours on your work or dreams to the detriment of your entire life.
(4) Be consistently active—always be willing to work
Every now and then, give yourself a task to do—be active! If we think about all the great achievements that a number of men and women accomplished and make this world a much better place, we will appreciate the benefits of being active and sticking to commitments. Leonardo da Vinci once said something like this: “It had long since come to my attention that people of accomplishment rarely sat back and let things happen to them. They went out and made things happen”.
(5) Be courageous enough to follow your intuition and take risks
If you strongly believe and desire to achieve something, then you might have a faint idea about what to do in order to materialize it. When you have sufficient belief and perception, no matter how little, don’t be afraid to take a step (or necessary steps) to get things going. Generally, you have to trust your own instincts in many areas of life.
(6) Establish positive relationships
The best societies, organizations and institutions are the ones that have or cultivate positive relationships which lead to productivity and success. The best types of leaders or people have always been those who never causes commotions, and didn’t fight with people; they were friendly to everyone around them, and people liked them for their friendly nature.
(7) Always have faith—believe that you have the ability to succeed
Success depends a lot on your how much imagine yourself achieving something(s)—achieving the unseen! In life you will always come across people who will doubt your abilities and give you reasons why you won’t achieve your goals and desires, most especially when you are yet to take a step; but regardless of what they think, do, or say, keep on having faith in your own abilities; then one day your hidden potential will come to light much to your utter surprise!
(8) Always educate yourself
We all know the popular wise words: “knowledge is power”. Indeed, knowledge is really power, and probably more than power too. Educating yourself with knowledge and skills could enhance your potential. On terms of financial success, studies have shown that the more knowledgeable or educated one is, the more like they are to make money. Not all types of education have to be formal; one can be educated on anything that can bring contentment and success.
(9) Set boundaries with certain types of people
Generally, be loving, caring, and have open arms, but don’t accept disrespect and abuse from people who normally emit negative vibes. The world has very odd and negative people, and it’s better to know when and how to handle some of their excesses which could infect you on the long run when you don’t straighten things out and early enough.
(10) Always be ready for the unexpected—anything can happen tomorrow
As long as you live, do all you can to acquire knowledge and understand how things work, but always keep this thought in mind: no amount of knowledge or understanding can take away the unexpected circumstances that each person will inevitably face tomorrow. Always have a Plan B in mind in case the unexpected happens.
10 important things you should not do in order to be contented and successful
(1) Do not blame other people whenever things don’t work
Everyone will be able to taste true success if they put down their garments of excuses, stop making excuses, and start being accountable for most of the things they blame other people for. Most people have the tendency to blame others, and this usually delays collective progress.
(2) Do not doubt yourself—don’t be afraid of failure
Your level of confidence today will continue to play a huge role in how contented or successful you will be in the future. Confidence in yourself can take you to the next level even when you are yet to achieve your dreams. Don’t pay attention to doubts. Whenever you feel discouraged, concentrate on positivity and ignore discouragement and doubt.
(3) Do not put important things off
It can be difficult to change. Self-improvement and self-development are not always easy initiate and do. When things are difficult, it becomes easier to keep them for another day. Stop procrastinating, and start putting those important pieces together. To be contented and succeed at the highest level, you must stop putting off important things.
(4) Do not think that you don’t have a choice
Regardless any circumstance, there will always be a choice. Sometimes you might even have to choose between two things that look equally average, below average, or even bad. However, there will still be a chance to make a choice. In any situation, don’t sell your soul!
(5) Do not always continue doing the same thing and expecting a different result—use new ideas
Although many people are aware that two plus two will always be equal to four, they waste all their determination and energy to make two plus two equal to five, or a number that’s much higher—this is illogical and unnatural! Albert Einstein said—and I agree—that insanity means “doing the same thing and expecting a different result”. The truth of the matter is that in many areas of life, if you keep using one approach, you will continue to get the same results, no matter how much you hope for something else.
(6) Do not expect everything to always work out precisely the way want
People can be untrustworthy, and nature does things whenever or however it likes; so nothing is completely certain—this has been the way of the world since the beginning. Don’t trust anyone completely, and don’t always expect people to love or help you. On the other hand, do all you can to make things work, and leave the rest in the hands of people and Mother Nature. Note that everything will not always work out on its own; be creative and take responsibility for yourself.
(7) Do not say “yes” when you are supposed to say “no”
The Christian Bible says, “let your yes be yes, and your no be no”. When you say “yes” to one thing, then at the same time you would be saying “no” to others. If you say yes to academics and examinations, then you must say no to “playing around consistently”. The major problem in our society today is that saying “no” is a great challenge for many people, and this has caused a lot of problems in organizations, businesses, and relationships because saying “yes” has led to lots of disasters. In many instances, refrain from using comments like “I am not certain”, “I might not be able to”, etc.
(8) Do not mismanage your finances
Regardless of your income or how much you make, if you manage your money, your financial stability will be ensured and maintained over a long period of time. Keep track of your expenses in order to have insight and prevent over-spending—or spending on irrelevant things. Take a critical look at your expenses in order to be sure your finances are not wasting.
(9) Do not compare your life with the lives of other people
It is quite unfortunate that many people measure their progress or success in life by comparing their lives with that of other people who live around or far away from them. Many people have the tendency to compare the negatives in their lives with the positives in the lives of other people. Instead of comparing yourself with people who are better off than you, think about all the homeless, poor and severely ill people whom you are better off than—count your blessings! If you want to start feeling contented and successful, value your own life and the things you have, great or small.
(10) Don’t live in the past—live in the present, and concentrate on the future
There could be a lot of benefits gained from by looking at past successes, and getting inspiration from them; however, one should be careful because if it gets to one’s head, it could make one become stagnant and not move ahead to achieve more success. Also, if one concentrates on a negative past, they could become much more negative and not achieve anything substantial in the future.
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